I came out publicly a few months prior to my twenty-second birthday. I was sitting in the parking lot of a hospital with my partner at the time, coffee for her bedridden mother in the cup holder, and we were avidly discussing our new relationship. And she was really cool with it.
Roughly two years ago, a notable number of the Autostraddle staff and also world at large went through what I now think of as The Summer of Breakups — long-term relationships that everyone had thought would last forever were suddenly turned on their head, including mine. Group chats were formed! Impulsive decisions were made!
If only gay relationship advice were so easy. Then they go through a brutal breakup, and my friend starts dating a new guy. So my friend then comes to me, asking for advice, perplexed that this always happens to him.
So here goes. Being dumped is hard, really hard; but then again so was being in a long-term relationship. Spending that much time with one person without wanting to kill them is tough. With any kind of relationship there is always a constant pressure of multiple forces coming together and moving apart sometimes creating amazing harmony, like beer, pizza and a movie on the couch on a Friday night.
One thing is true no matter how great or bad a relationship was: Breakups aren't easy. Getting over someone is hard. Actually, it can be quite devastating if we don't take steps to take care of ourselves and minimize the damage.
Jump to navigation. For the most part, it seems men are left to figure it out for themselves. In heterosexual relationships, the foremost study into the differences in how each gender deals with heartbreak comes from researchers at Binghamton University, who pried open the personal lives of 6, participants across 96 countries by asking them to rate the emotional pain of their last break up.
Right, and then the relationship ends. Sometimes this happens abruptly, and other times it turns sour in a gradual and painful fashion. Either way, breakups hurt and can send your life into a whirlwind.
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My friend Aaron, a faithful Christian and devoutly gay man, recently broke up with his first boyfriend. I asked if he would like to share his story on this blog. He said yes, and then promptly wrote the following sarcastic, witty, and beautifully sad essay.